I hope you read this so maybe i can understand some things better. I grew up around the Muslim culture and my best friend dates and so does her sister. This year i met a guy. He is muslim and very into the whole if i do something wrong i am going to repent. And he even teaches little kids how speak Arabic and how to read the Quran.
And we started talking and not talking. In a sexual manner but we said i love you and that kind of thing. He was fired and told if he kept in contact with me he would be labeled a sex How to get married without dating islam. He is 18 and im I tried talking to him and he said the things we did were against islam.
Im confused as to how they are. Because i know he is a member of msa at his college. So maybe you can help me let go and movr on.
Hmm, well first off I'll say that I'm no expert on the issue but I can give my best opinion. There's a few details of your situation that I'm unclear about. I feel bad that he was fired and even gone as far as being threatened to be labeled as a sex offender.
That's a bit insane. If the environment where you guys met and interacted was a Mosque or an Islamic school then it's territory where management and such will be watching for questionable behavior. The people who caught you two, I feel, are being pretty harsh and they could've just spoke to him and warned him but they just went nuts. Islam teaches that if a single man and single woman are alone together, they aren't really alone because Satan is among them, ready to stir feelings up and whisper and try to get you to sin.
You may not have done anything physically but getting to the point where you're saying "I Love You" to your tutor and just being attracted to him and flirting is already going too far. It's a gateway to eventually more serious offenses holding hands, kissing, touching, sex.
Unless you guys are married, it's not cool. Of course you How to get married without dating islam are young so mistakes will happen. It may be weird to you since you aren't Muslim and possibly were raised thinking these kinda things aren't a problem.
It's the society we live in.
Things that weren't okay back in the past are normal now. But in they are a problem. And sure you have friends who date who are Muslim, but they aren't following the rules of Islam properly if they are.
Nobody's perfect and everyone has weaknesses that they have to work on. This article I wrote pretty How to get married without dating islam states why it's not best to date and essentially for our own good.
God knows what's best for people and has a method to follow to go about things properly. If you like someone of the opposite sex you have to go about it the right way and that's marriage. If you think you're too young or not ready then stay away until you are. Dating is not the answer and really just muddies things up. Don't tell us what to do we can date if we want ok and btw I am a muslim soo yeah. Like seriously, that comment wasn't even needed because you didn't have anybody at gunpoint forbidding you to date, now did you?
Just to clarify the environment we were in was a high school a normal one in Texas. And he was one of my good friends,i would even go so far as to say he was one of my best friends. And i told him everything. And it has been several months since we had our official goodbye.
But it still doesnt feel right it feels like there are still things left unanswered and unexplained. And i still love him. And i know he loves Islam he teaches the little kids how to read the Quran and he some times leads prayer.
And i wouldn't want him doing anything hadram by speaking to me again or even having the possibility that we might go back to being friends. And i am still in the same place as i was last time. Not knowing what to do.
I am so confused as to pertaining to Islam and our situation. What I said before if you read my reply again but let me quote it "Unless you guys are married, it's not cool. Islam doesn't approve of this because when you're ready to commit to a relationship it should be for How to get married without dating islam spouse that you want to spend the rest of your life with. At such a young age, that might not be something you can grasp yet.
You want to explore, you want to have fun and be free. It takes maturity and discipline to get to that level. In regards to this situation I would like to add that since you have strong feelings for him and aren't feeling closure, again you're still very young and at that age it's easy to get infatuated with people. The best I can tell you is to just better understand what Islam is all about.
This boy that you were flirting with may have his own issues he needs to work out "How to get married without dating islam" it's best to give him some space.